I liked Her a lot.
"Set in a slightly futuristic L.A., where men wear trousers comically high at the waist and Shanghai-style skyscrapers loom in the background, the movie stars Joaquin Phoenix as Theodore, a middle-aged writer who works writing letters for other people."
(Director Spike Jonze: "At 43, he has started to look softly brushed by early middle age; he’s still slight, trim, and boyish, and he has the reedy, cracking voice of a teenager, but he’s no longer going to be mistaken for a kid who wandered onto the set.")
I would kind of agree with this (I'm still not fully on board with 30something being lumped in) if it weren't for the fact that Joaquin Phoenix's ex-wife is played by Rooney Mara, a women who is only 28. An eleven-year age gap would hardly be unusual in a mainstream movie, except that two times during Her it's made clear that the two characaters grew up together (and then apart). They were meant to be peers, not like one was in college while the other was in grade school.
And now I feel borderline crazy because not one person–and critics have focused on equally minute details–has mentioned this or seems to have a problem with it. It only perpetuates the warped notion of the type of woman a "middle-aged" man should be with. Were there not any actresses in their late 30s available for this role?
Reality is much more disturbing than fiction sometimes: Joaquin Phoenix's real-life girlfriend is 19.